stele3:

lazulisong:

Also it is as god damn hot as balls! Drink a water! Several waters! Another one! Unfortunately coffee is not a water! Neither is beer!!! If u hate the taste of water, consider drinking a juice! Diluted if u have to! If u can find those lime or lemon powder packets those work great! Set a fuckin timer kids u gotta stay hydrated especially if u are on meds or otherwise managing ur brain weasels!!! Brain weasels hate hydration!!!

I’m using “brain weasels hate hydration” from now on.

Partly I’m joking because That’s What I Do, but I’ve been around people with various forms of brain fail and brain weasel since I was born, and I’ve begun to think hunger and thirst signal failure and misfires are a genuine symptom people should look out for. And a shockingly amount of times, being properly hydrated relieves a lot of symptoms. So it’s not I’m gong to say that drinking how every many ounces of water a day is gonna cure u but by god when your brain has enough water to function it sure works a hell of a lot better. So yes. Brain weasels hate hydration.

I have, by trial and a lot of error, found that if I am feeling particularly desirous of copious amounts of wanton destruction, eating something and drinking a glass of water helps get the frustration and/or rage back into manageable* limits most of the time. And I have several very annoying brain weasels I currently do not have the money to treat and health insurance that does not cover mental health very well.

tl;dr – Yes, all of this. Brain weasels hate hydration and full tummies.

*and by manageable, I mean that I at least have the spoons to remember to turn off the internet and go blow virtual things up, even if I can’t make the anxiety or depression or the ADHD stop being an ass.

shanology:

bettydays:

a concept: i have finished my wip. there are no spelling, usage, or grammatical errors. all open conflicts have been seamlessly resolved. my otp has engaged in emotionally validating and sexually satisfying fornication. i hit refresh on ao3 to find a 20% kudos to hits ratio. a dozen 200-word analytical comments wait in my inbox, praising me on my literary conviction and clever use of canon in my fresh perspective au world. my readers recommend it to other readers. it becomes fandom famous, known by the acronym of its title which has a flourishing tumblr tag. this is the apex; i have arrived.

I’d settle for “I have finished my wip”

I’d settle for having finished one WIP.

To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

theotherguysride:

evacmun:

bonehandledknife:

survivablyso:

bonehandledknife:

lierdumoa:

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

.

When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?”

What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.”

What they’re actually asking: “Can I join you?”

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection.

What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]

What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.

.

This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

I didn’t realize, even thought it took me almost three decades to learn this, that this was such a paradigm changing realization until we had our conversation today.

But it really really is. One of the most bewildering realizations I’ve had is most people don’t talk to learn things unless its related to work or directly towards their own hobbies, all the words and questions are bonding questions if done socially. They are “lets make friends” questions.

So if I answer their question without an opportunity for the person asking the question to give a response or to join in somehow, the asker feels alienated and starts shutting down.

Example: what are you reading?

True answer but not what they’re looking for: Title of book

Best answer for social scenarios where I want to retain/create friendship: This book is about x and y but it has z that i know u have an interest in too.

Example: what are you doing?

True answer but not: drawing

Best answer for friends: I’m drawing but would u like company while I’m working?

And sometimes frankly I’m not in a headspace where I can process people so the answer is something like, “I would like to do something in a day or later, do you want to plan something?”

Tldr: communication is wierd

HOLY

SHIT

that explains so fucking much thank you

(why the fuck do neurotypicals never just day what they mean ie hey this show looks cool mind if I join you)

Further annoying?

They don’t realize that’s what they’re asking and they just feel rejected and go away. So you can’t even ask them what you did wrong because they can’t even put a finger on why they feel the way they do they just know you made them feel bad for some undefined reason.

…..oh

0o…

I had no fucking idea what the fuck who the fuck.

I’ve always used ‘mind if I join in’ when I want to join someone in an activity. If I’m interested about it, I ask about it. I stay and listen if they explain. Which, most of the time is fascinating as fuck because very little entertains me more than someone talking about something they love.

I had no idea that other people used this as /code/.

*adds another set of questions to those that they’re too used to actually meaning to always remember that some people don’t*