Tag: adhd

norcumi:

gay-jesus-probably:

Hey is finding kissing fucking disgusting an aro thing or just a me thing? Because honestly idk what anyone gets out of it its so gross and it feels terrible and slimy and its so awkward. eugh. I’ve tried kissing with an embarrasingly high number of people and the best it has ever gotten is ‘reluctantly willing to put up with a quick smooch’. Maybe its a stimulation thing? my mouths pretty hypersensitive so idk. Just wondering in general.

Still figuring out if I’m on the aro spectrum or not, so I’m not sure if my indifference is me, circumstances, or something else. Tossing this out there in case anyone else has interesting input!

Aro/ace, and kissing is… tolerable when I like people, these days, provided there is no kissing on the lips. Used to like kissing more, and still like the concept of kissing, but not the actual kissing itself if I am involved.

I’ve also had to deal with everything getting worse on the sensory issues front for the last few years, and it seems the worse the sensitivity, the less kissing is appealing. So I dunno if it’s the aro/ace part, or the sensory issues, or possibly even trauma issues because reasons I’m not going into.

CSI Miami: Loki’s Children: Hospital Book Club

@theotherguysride @norcumi

Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 | Part 7 | Part 8 | Part 9 | Part 10 | ?

Word Count: 653 (4481)

Speed looks over at the crow outside a moment, glad that he’s not the only one who sees it this time, though he doesn’t know what it means that Rodri can see it too. Hopefully not anything bad.

“Anyway. Do you want to talk about what happened after whatever put you in the hospital?” Rodri is fidgeting absently, as if they don’t notice what they’re doing. “The crows?” They glance at the window again, where the black dog is still having a staring contest with the crow. “Or is it just one?”

“Just one, I think. At least now.” Speed leans back in the chair, looking up at the ceiling, and trying to ignore the dog resting its head on his knee. “There were a lot, before I woke up. A woman – the Morrigan – next to a shallow river, and crows in the trees all around her. Lots of crows. And then just one, after I woke up. Perched on the end of my hospital bed, but no one else saw it.” He pauses. “It was up on the IV stand when you came in. I think.”

“Somewhere that I wasn’t going to notice it, whether I could see it or not.” There’s a shift of fabric that suggests Rodri shrugged. “The Washer at the Ford, chooser of the slain. She have anything of yours there?”

“Yeah, actually. Clothes I was wearing, my badge, my gun.” Speed could see it again if he closes his eyes, so he keeps his gaze on the ceiling. “She called them my armor.” He snorts, remembering how sodden with blood the shirt had become, how useless fabric is for deflecting bullets. “My sword and my shield.”

“They’d be the equivalent, wouldn’t they? She washes the armor and emblems of those who will die, particularly those going into battle.”

“Maybe, but she wasn’t washing them when I got there. Didn’t even move to do so. Just told me I didn’t need them right then. Asked why she should return them, when I said I’d prefer to keep them.”

“Did you give her a reason?”

“I don’t know. I must have given her something to work with, because she told me to take them and go. But if I failed to keep my promises, I’d have to answer to her.”

Rodri laughs, and Speed lifts his head to look at them. “You made a promise, and I’d say that’s reason. Can you say what the promise was?”

“To ask for help.” Speed hesitates, looking down at the dog, which is still resting its head on his knee, watching him and thumping its tail against the floor. “I did ask, when I woke up.”

“Just then?” Rodri is watching him with curiosity clear in their expression . “Or is it something you’re going to have to ask for help with more than once?”

“Probably more than once.” Though how does he ask for help over and over when he has a hard time remembering in the first place?

“Something you have to do on a regular basis?”

“Yeah.” Speed frowns at Rodri, leaning forward.

“You have a calendar or something that you see every day?”

“My front door, but it’s an apartment, I can’t really do anything that’ll damage it.”

Rodri grins. “Artist tape, or magnets if it’s metal. Put something on there that’s a reminder. Something that isn’t just visual noise. Whatever works for you.”

“That’s the thing, I don’t know what’s going to work.”

“So you experiment. That’s what I do. Experiment until you figure out what works, and then use that. Make sure you have a reminder to at least ask for whatever it is you need help with. And if it’s more than one thing, ask more than one person.” Rodri holds his gaze even as Speed wants to look away. “It’s not easy, and it’s not always simple. You just try, that’s all you can do.”

plain-flavoured-english:

dominawritesthings:

dragonofeternal:

One of the most important things I’ve learned as a Real Adult™ is the importance of a job half done. 

Today I did a load of dishes, wiped off my stove, and swept the kitchen floor. Did I do the best job, or finish every dish? No! My stove still has that caked on caramel that I need to bust out an SOS pad to take care of, one of our big pots is still sitting in the sink, and somehow a kitty kibble unearthed itself while I was wiping down the stove (?? how??).. but the kitchen looks a LOT better. It’s once again an inhabitable, usable space.

Parents, bosses, teachers, even my own self, harp upon absolute perfect completion of a task as the be all and end all of a job well done, but god damn, my kitchen isn’t terrible because I took the time to improve it. Little steps, especially when you’re struggling, are important. They mean a LOT. They are a sign that you won, if only in that brief moment, and they make getting all the other stuff done so much easier later on down the road. 

I…need to remember this. Thank you.

This is actually hugely important advice for people with ADHD. Some of the side effects of ADHD are procrastination, anxiety, and guilt because when you look at the whole picture at once instead of focusing on the individual details (as people with ADHD tend to do), a long, multi-step task can seem impossible to complete. It’s important to remember that the few steps it takes to start a task are just as important as the steps it takes to complete it. Did you do your laundry but not fold it yet? Did you change your sheets but not wash them yet? Did you start researching a paper but not write anything yet? Congratulations! You’ve gotten important work done. Productivity is more than crossing things off a to-do list.

Executive Function Impairments in High IQ Adults With ADHD

metagorgon:

are you ready for the latest in research-based [ingroup] demographic stereotypy? this one’s a doozy.

In our clinical practice, adults with IQ scores in and above the superior range have sought evaluation and treatment for chronic difficulties with organizing their work, excessive procrastination, inconsistent effort, excessive forgetfulness, and lack of adequate focus for school and/or employment. They question whether they might have an attention deficit disorder, but often they have been told by educators and clinicians that their superior intelligence precludes their having ADHD.

Typically, these very bright individuals report that they are able to work very effectively on certain tasks in which they have strong personal interest or intense fear of immediate negative consequences if they do not complete the task at once. Yet they are chronically unable to make themselves do many tasks of daily life they recognize as important but do not see as personally interesting at that moment. When provided treatment appropriate for ADHD, these very bright individuals often report significant improvement in their ability to work effectively while their medication is active.

yes. so. how would you like a summary of my educational career?

Clinical interviews with patients in this study indicated that individuals with high IQ who have ADHD may be at increased risk of having recognition and treatment of their ADHD symptoms delayed until relatively late in their educational careers because teachers and parents tend to blame the student’s disappointing academic performance on boredom or laziness, especially as they notice the situational variability of their ADHD symptoms.

Like most others with ADHD, these individuals have a few specific domains in which they have always been able to focus very well, for example, sports, computer games, artistic or musical pursuits, reading self-elected materials. Parents and teachers tend to assume that these very bright persons could focus on any other tasks equally well, if only they chose to do so. These observers do not understand that although ADHD appears to be a problem of insufficient willpower, it is not (Brown, 2005).

Many also reported that they often demonstrated considerable prowess in performing specific tasks in which they had little positive personal interest but did experience considerable fear of immediate negative consequences if they did not complete that particular task by some external deadline. Often subjects described this as a character trait, “I’m just a severe procrastinator” or “I always work best under pressure.”

that’s not all.

In an unpublished study of 103 treatment-seeking adults with IQ 120 or more diagnosed with ADHD, Brown and Quinlan (1999) found that 42% had dropped out of postsecondary schooling at least once, although some did eventually return to complete a degree. Those data together with this present study suggest that individuals with high IQ and ADHD, despite their strong cognitive abilities, may be at significant risk of educational disruption or failure due to ADHD-related impairments of EF.

and now?

Biederman et al. (2006) […] found that adults with ADHD who self-reported elevated levels of EF impairments on the CBS tended to be significantly more impaired on measures of global functioning, had more comorbidities, and held lower current socioeconomic status than did those with or without ADHD who scored below the median on that scale. […]

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Executive Function Impairments in High IQ Adults With ADHD

Bedtime, 26 May 17

I would like to destroy something because I still can’t go out of my apartment without a lot of effort to hide from the sun, I can’t open the curtain of the window next to me for the same reason, I can’t get my laundry done until Monday, there was a lot of ow today because it’s a red day, and it’s hard to do dishes when sun comes in the window over the kitchen sink.

(And despite all efforts to hide from the sun while going to deal with the produce delivery today, I still got mild sunburn on my face. Fuckdamnit.)

Two more days. Two more days of this stuff, and then I am done. And I can go back to taking closer to fifteen minutes than five or less to begin to burn.

In happier things – I have spent two days marathoning CSI Miami and taking notes so I can play in one of my AUs. And also compiling little bits and pieces to support a headcanon or two of mine about one of my favored characters. (Also adding a new headcanon to my list because of bits about the actor, combined with stuff about the character.) I love being able to find things that make me think a character is ace-spectrum (demi or gray ace, in this case), and also neurodivergent (this one I’m not as settled on, but there are bits and pieces that make me think ADD). Also, he is easy on the eyes, which does not hurt at all.

Hugs for everyone, and I hope you sleep well!

jabberwockypie:

twistedingenue:

eeddis:

adhighdefinition:

filed under: things I wish I had known earlier but are quite obvious when you think about it

One thing this doesn’t mention that I know I have problems with is the executive function involved in going to bed.  It takes so much organization to stop whatever task you’re working on, change into PJs, wash your face, brush your teeth, etc.  So not only am I lying in bed Thinking™ for an hour, I’m doing that late at night because it took ages to cajole myself into getting ready for bed.

Hi, this is why I take a low dose of trazadone at night. Helps so much.

@deadcatwithaflamethrower

i didnt get diagnosed with autism til i was 21, people/doctors/teachers just never seem to look for/expect it in anyone who isn’t a small boy obsessed with trains

poplitealqueen:

gallusrostromegalus:

poplitealqueen:

Dang, dude.

I’m not gonna seriously think about it until I’ve researched it thoroughly. A few Tumblr posts that I relate to abnormally well does not a diagnosis make!

New Experience Aversion is also an ADHD thing, because over-sensitivity to new stimuli is also an ADHD thing.  In ladies, ADHD and Autism can look REALLY similar, especially if we’ve been socially conditioned to to supress visible symptoms by doing the “feminine” thing of staying quiet in spite of internal chaos.

Ah thank you for the info!

adhd-queer:

shoutout to people with adhd
shoutout to people with adhd who are lgbtq+
shoutout to people with adhd who have hyperfixations
shoutout to people with adhd who are super impulsive
shoutout to people with adhd who stim
shoutout to people with adhd who also have autism
shoutout to people with adhd who struggle with anger management
shoutout to people with adhd who didn’t get diagnosed until they were older because they did ok in school
im proud of u