Tag: social interaction

slothssassin:

Fun™ things to do on Tumblr:

Let’s make this a nice place for all of us.

  • Send messages to people. They could become new friends!
  • Someone reblogged an ask game? Go on, ask them something, you know they’ll be happy.
  • Share your OCs! It’s nice to see how other people create their characters.
  • See something about an OC on your dash? Comment on it, reblog it, show your interest. People are happy if others want to know more about their characters.
  • See something you like? Tell the creator! Send an ask, a message, comment, anything.
  • Do art trades! Or art for fic trades!
  • If you like a post, reblog it. It won’t hurt you. Likes are nice, but reblogs are better.
  • You like someone and what they’re doing? Why not send them a random ask and tell them? You’ll make their day!
  • Tag people! Tag games are fun and make you feel integrated in a fandom.
  • Respect others

Feel free to add stuff to the list.

fangirling-in-general-idk:

localsadsoul:

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athenaowl1:

aymygod:

ghdos:

zeauxlouizianalaureate:

ramentic:

voltisubito:

marquesadesantos:

aboonoor:

If you’re a Non-Muslim and you see a Muslim praying in public, could you please not pass in front of them?

Go behind them, but not in front. 👍

Oh, signal boost! I didn’t know this.

Okay, but also: if you see a Muslim praying in public and they have something in front of them, like a purse or a bag or something like that, you can pass in front of them, but pass in front of that object.

it’s called a sutrah, and it’s meant to act as a physical barrier between the person praying and someone who might happen to pass in front.

Also, if you did this and didn’t know, please don’t beat yourself up over it. Now you know! Muslims aren’t supposed to pass in front of Muslims praying, either, because prayer is communication with God and you don’t want to break that connection.

Spread culture, respect customs, be good people. Simple as that.

Didn’t know this.

Reblogging again

THE AMOUNTS OF REBLOGS THIS HAS JUST MAKES ME SO HAPPY

S I G N A L B O O S T

Reblog forever ! 

Similarly, if a Jew is saying the Shemonah Esrei prayer (whispered, moving only the mouth, standing facing east with legs together) don’t go in front unless there’s a barrier.

Public Shame

jackcrumsontheinternet:

the-real-seebs:

curlicuecal:

As I mentioned, I recently read Jon Ronson’s book “So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed” and thought it made some very compelling points on the renaissance of public shaming in the age of social media.  I was going to post my highlights, but then I realized I’d highlighted about 30% of the book, so instead:

I wrote down what I thought were some of the key, take-home points the book made, and pulled quotes from the book in no particular order for each of them.  It’s  still a wall of text, but feel free to wade in if you’re interested.

Again, I strongly recommend giving this book a read.

  • Public shaming is often motivated by a belief that one is Doing Good

  • Public shaming is about social conformity

  • Public shaming can make us LESS aware of viewpoints different that our own 
  • Shame works because we are all afraid

  • Shaming others can bring out our own brutality

  • Shame leads to dehumanization and “death of the soul”

  • Shame leads to violence

  • Technology has strange warping effects on how public shaming
    affects us (and social media shaming can have longer impacts than we
    expect)

  • There is evidence that “De-shaming” may have more positive outcomes than shaming

quotes from the book supporting each point under the cut. (bolding mine, quotes by paragraph and in no particular order)

Keep reading

This is some incredible stuff. Worth reading all the comments.

And… yeah, actually, I have absolutely defaulted to shaming responses to shaming behavior, and been confused that it wasn’t working, so that seems to be an actual bug in how brains work.

Loved this book. Looking at shame as a sort of an emotional violence completely recontextualizes the Internet.

you deserving something doesn’t mean any specific person owes it to you

fierceawakening:

decepticonsensual:

fierceawakening:

neurodiversitysci:

jumpingjacktrash:

you deserve love. your crush does not owe you a date.

you deserve success. your coworkers do not owe you extra hours.

you deserve emotional support. your friends do not owe you free therapy.

what ‘you deserve this’ means is that it’s ok to want it and hope for it and try to achieve it, not that you have the authority to demand that a person provide it. it’s good to ask for it, but you have to be willing to take no for an answer.

Yes, well put. I wish all those lonely, resentful misogynist types on Reddit and 4chan understood this.

Yeah, this.

This is actually what I was trying to get at with the manipulation post.

A lot of the posts that go around saying “severely mentally ill kids don’t deserve to be lonely uwu” are actually very similar in internal logic to “no guy deserves the friend zone.”

No, no one deserves to be lonely! But it is no particular individual’s responsibility to solve this problem.

Which is why I personally think having a multiple-person support system is absolutely vital.

Because it enables you to go “Kishona is busy right now, or terribly sad herself. But I really can’t be alone right now! I know, I’ll text Dave and see if he can help.”

Just doing that has saved my ass so many times from so much misery, and also meant not heavily burdening one person.

Yes, absolutely, all of this!

I think this is also really helpful in cutting through the false dichotomy people sometimes fall into:  the idea that, “Either I am Bad and don’t actually deserve love/happiness/etc., or I do deserve it and therefore the people around me are Bad (shallow, mean, whatever) for not providing it.”

You deserve good things, and no one owes them to you.

Yes!