focus transitioning time is especially real when you’ve adhd. not just for kids but also adults. we need to know beforehand when we have to abandon what we’re doing in the moment to do something else. if you don’t give us enough notice, our brains oftentimes won’t be able to adjust to the sudden change of focus which usually causes us to get unnecessarily frustrated and unable to function as well as we otherwise could
Also, saying things like ‘later’ or ‘soon’. My brother has ADHD doesn’t understand when you say ‘later’ or ‘soon’. My parents will tell him something like ‘get off the PlayStation soon.’ and when they tell him to get off randomly later, he’ll be frustrated and angry. But if you tell him ‘get off in ten minutes’ or ‘you’re off at 5’, he will happily get off and do something else.
So it’s not just giving notice, it’s also giving a set time in which they have to do something
yes, this! important!
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Here’s a weird thing I’ve learned since I started working with the homeless:
If you want to know if someone grew up rich or poor, take a look at their teeth.
It seems so stupid now, but before I got this job, I didn’t really think about teeth. I went to the dentist every six months. I was bucktoothed and gap-toothed as a child, so I got braces. That’s just how life worked. Almost everyone I knew had braces. By my final year of high school, my graduating class was a sea of perfect smiles. It never once dawned on me that other families might not have thousands of dollars to spend on cosmetic dentistry. In my world, if you needed braces and cleanings, you got braces and cleanings.
In the real world, thousands of children go without those things. People who live on food stamps can’t afford fresh food every day; when you grow up poor, you often grow up with sugary snacks and beverages, which decay your teeth over time.If your tooth gets chipped, broken or rotten, it gets pulled or it stays that way, because you can’t afford to fix it. And at the end of the day, you end up as an adult with dental issues.
If you have nice teeth, you probably don’t realize this, but we live in a world that is fucking obsessed with teeth. Celebrities have nice teeth. Politicians have nice teeth. When you picture a rich person, a successful person, an educated person, they have a full set of gleaming pearly whites.
In our culture, we use “bad teeth” as a signal of poverty. They are shorthand for low education, for “hillbillies” with a lower quality of life. Bad teeth are not welcome at job interviews. They are not wanted in the dating scene. If you are trying to be taken seriously – at the bank, at the lawyer’s office, at your child’s school, at the doctor’s office – bad teeth will hold you back.
And the consequences go far beyond the social issues. Tooth problems are painful. When you go to the dentist every six months, cavities and issues get caught early. When you go years between visits, abscesses, infections, exposed nerves and irreversible damage have time to take root. It’s an extremely painful thing to live with, it can make eating unpleasant, and tooth infections can get into your blood steam and kill you. Teeth are a health problem, and yet we price dental care like a luxury commodity.
So if you meet someone with crooked teeth, or broken teeth, or tooth decay, don’t stare. Don’t make fun of them. Don’t fixate on it. That person may not have grown up with the money or nutrition that you did. Take the person for who they are, not for the teeth in their mouth.
Dental care should be a human right, just like healthcare. Let’s fight for that.
so heres the thing about shipping: its not a political statement. its having fun.
i understand that a lot of people want more wlw/mlm and other queer representation in media, but shipping queer relationships doesnt actually dictate whats in the media- it just adds to it.
and at the end of the day, shipping is really just about liking two characters and exploring what their relationship is/could be inside AND outside of canon. all those AUs you build and make are just you having fun, not you making a political statement. same goes for me, and for just about everyone else.
mlw in general fall under the same rules. no one is opposing queer relationships because they ship mlw relationships, and even then, whos to say neither characters can be bi or pan? why is it that mlw ships are looked at more critically with respect to canon than mlm/wlw??
So yknow. when i say let people have fun re: shipping this is what i mean. shipping is supposed to be about having fun
Regardless of how much or how little a freelance artist decides to set their commission prices at, they are in every right to do that.
If you feel an artist is charging too little for a commission, tip them!
If you feel an artist is charging too much, they’re not, but they’re out of your price range and you should not be spending money on luxury goods you cannot afford in the first place.
Every artist should be charging more for their work – but they do not for any number of personal, professional or financial reasons. That’s their individual decision – if they are comfortable bumping their price they will, in the interim, encourage tipping/them accepting tips.
There are also more and more artists that are beginning to charge more for their work, and they should – it’s a highly-valued luxury good. That is their individual decision – if you can’t afford it, that’s your problem, not the artist’s. They are charging according to a variety of wage standards, time, labor, media, tools and etc. to formulate their prices.
Art is a luxury good that requires specific specialized skill sets and prices set around hours creating unique custom digital or physical goods with expensive programs, devices, tools or mediums, tailored to client specifications. You are not entitled to cheaper prices and artists are not entitled to increase or decrease their rates at the whim of others.
If you do not want to pay for a luxury good, you are going to have to learn and invest in how to create it yourself instead.
As a side note, I can’t stress the tipping enough. A lot of artists won’t raise their prices for any number of personal, professional or financial reasons and that’s their business, so instead of telling them over and over to raise their prices, buy at the price you think is too low and then just tip them for their work.
platonic soulmates are underrated yet so incredibly important
Whatever acceptance for non-binary identities exists in society (and it is very limited as it is) is closely tied to the idea of youth being allowed to experiment a bit as long as that experiment is temporary. So
take care of your older nonbinary folks. Take care of your nonbinary folks slipping out of ‘young adulthood’. Take care of them when their hair turns thin or grey or their age starts to show in other ways. Violence is coming their way. A lot of the world is telling them that their existence is an unacceptable form of immaturity.
What They Don’t Tell You
•Even after you cut someone toxic/abusive out of your life, they drain you
•They get to walk away and pretend like it didn’t happen, while you’re left to pick up the pieces
•Sometimes they’ll play victim, try to garner all the sympathy and attention even though you know they have no right
•Sometimes they’ll take a fake high road, accuse you of lying and say they did nothing wrong, that you hurt them, and pretend that they’re better
•Some won’t take no for an answer
•They’ll do anything to put the blame on you. To make you seem like the villain or the monster
•Most will hurt someone again. And the hardest part is accepting that it won’t be your fault
•You’ll feel a void in your life where they were. You might miss them. That’s normal.
•You have to relearn so many things. What actual healthy love/friendships/relationships are
•You need to learn to trust again, to see the world as more then its darkness
•You’ll think you’re faking it sometimes. Even if others believe you, the what if will always creep up
•You need support. No one can do this alone
•Healing isn’t linear. It has its ups and its downs. Some vary day to day
•Just because you have a bad day doesn’t mean you’re regressing
•Everyone heals differently, but there will always be a scar
•Somethings may never be the same for you, somethings will trigger you. And that’s ok
•Nothing you did caused this. You didn’t deserve it. You didn’t do anything. THEY chose to hurt YOU.
•Some abusers might have loved you, and it’s hard to accept that. Remember that this is toxic, unhealthy love
•You don’t have to forgive them. But you also don’t have to never forgive. Whatever helps you heal is what you need to do
•You may lose more people then just the one. Whether it’s people who support them, won’t support you, people you now see differently, etc. That’s ok
•You get to choose whose in your life
You only have so much emotional energy each day. Don’t fight battles that don’t matter.
(via guljerry)
When you divide people into “good people” and “bad people”, you will, inevitably, get three reactions:
- “I did something bad a few times, so that means I’m bad”, which leads to a not-actually-all-that-bad person developing depression, anxiety, OCD, etc.
- “I did something bad a few times, so let me be always bad”, which leads to someone plowing through life doing all sorts of terrible things with little to no remorse.
- “I am good, therefore everything I do is good”, which leads to someone plowing through life doing all sorts of terrible things with little to no remorse and the refrain “it’s for your own good”/“it’s for the greater good”.
It’s important to categorize individual actions and behaviors as good or bad, but categorizing people as one or the other is… counterproductive.
If you need a reference for indigenous American names:
Please check out native-languages.org!
Especially if you’re looking for names or translations!
Laura
Redish (who I was in contact with) was amazingly helpful to me when it
came to explaining names, naming traditions, and pronunciation.
I
was ready to pull my own hair out when I was searching for names on my
own, so thank you so much to both Laura and to Orrin Lewis!You can use this form right here,
if you’re looking for names.As the form says, they would love your help as you have asked for theirs. Donate if you can, but offering up language skills (they’ve specifically mentioned looking for those fluent in French), computer skills, or even just posting a link back on your own blog would be of great
help, I’m sure!If you also happen to be interested in preservation and would like to find ways to see how you can help, click here!
Or if you’re just plain interested in etymology, this is a great place to peruse for reference!
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