Honestly something that bothers me more than most things is having my compassion mistaken for naivety.
I know that another fish might eat this bullfrog right after I spend months rehabilitating it.
I know that turning a beetle back onto its legs won’t save it from falling over again when I walk away.
I know that there is no cosmic reward waiting for my soul based on how many worms I pick off a hot sidewalk to put into the mud, or how many times I’ve helped a a raccoon climb out of a too-deep trashcan.
I know things suffer, and things struggle, and things die uselessly all day long. I’m young and idealistic, but I’m not literally a child. I would never judge another person for walking by an injured bird, for ignoring a worm, or for not really caring about the fate of a frog in a pond full of, y’know, plenty of other frogs.
There is nothing wrong with that.
But I cannot cannot cannot look at something struggling and ignore it if I may have the power to help.
There is so much bad stuff in this world so far beyond my control, that I take comfort in the smallest, most thankless tasks. It’s a relief to say “I can help you in this moment,” even though they don’t understand.
I don’t need a devil’s advocate to tell me another fish probably ate that frog when I let it go, or that the raccoon probably ended up trapped in another dumpster the next night.
I know!!!! I know!!!!!!! But today I had the power to help! So I did! And it made me happy!
So just leave me alone alright thank u!!!!
THIS.
I heard a story about this, a parable I guess.
There was a big storm and a ton of starfish were washed onto the beach, stranded much further up than they could get back and beginning to bake in the post-storm sunshine. A little girl was walking down the beach, picking up starfish and throwing them back into the sea. Some guy comes up and asks her what she’s doing. “Saving the starfish,” she says.
He looks around at the huge beach and the hundreds of starfish, and says “You can’t possibly save them all. I’m afraid you’re not gonna make much of a difference.”
She throws another starfish back into the ocean, and replies “It made a difference to that one.”
Yeah, I mean, we know we can’t change all the things. But have you ever noticed how much better life is when you’re around people who change things when they can?
Kindness is a choice. Even if it’s small, it’s worth it.
This is what I’m talking about, when I say that kindness and compassion do not equate with ignorance, stupidity, or naivety. Being cynical does not make someone more intelligent or more worldly.
Kindness is not weakness.
Kindness is brave. Especially when you also know that your kindness might not be returned, may even be met with anger or cruelty. It’s reaching out with an open hand, knowing that it’s just as likely to be bitten as it is to be held.
Kindness is hard. If you can’t find it in yourself to be kind, then fine. But don’t make it more difficult for those that can.
Reminds me so much of mini-prinz and his tales of picking up snails off the sidewalk 😊
Tag: i needed this today
This made my day 💖
imma reblog this again just because 36 followers was gone after this post, ain’t nobody gonna judge them but god so get your racist ass outta here
Idris Elba photographed by Zoe McConnell for ShortList (2018)
a few things:
bullying is abuse. full stop. bullying is abuse, bullies are abusers. if you have been bullied, you have been abused.
bullying is not a lesser form of abuse. it is not normal. it is not beneficial. victims do not need to ‘grow up’ or ‘get over it’. you are not childish or immature for being hurt by it.
bullying can cause mental health problems. bullying can cause trauma. mental health problems and trauma caused by abuse are completely valid. bullying is not a lesser form of abuse and the effects of bullying are not lesser forms of pain.
bullying comes in a lot of different forms. essentially, if you were excluded or humiliated or mocked or physically abused or in any other way treated as inferior by your peers, you were bullied.
bullying is never the victim’s fault. never. the abusers will always find an excuse to hurt you but they don’t need an actual reason.
the effects of bullying can last a lifetime. all this is true if you’re being bullied right now, and all this is true if it’s been a year. five years. fifteen years. abuse can have long-term effects and healing is not a question of maturity.
bullying isn’t discussed nearly enough but seriously, it can be hellish and if you’re going through it or you’ve been through it, i’m with you. keep going.
This is a congratulations to every writer who put some work into their WIP today
You wrote down some words? Congratulations!
You came up with the way to solve that plot point? Congratulations!
You figured out a character’s motivation? Congratulations!
I don’t care if you wrote 2 words or 2 thousand. I don’t care if you’ve been working on this story for a few days or a few years (or even a few decades).
You got something done today? Congratulations, I’m proud of you, and I hope tomorrow you can do some more
You know what I don’t get? When fanfic authors apologize for long chapters. It’s like? You gave me bonus content, for free, and you’re sorry about it? Bruh. I have already named my firstborn after you. Dude.
You know what else I don’t get? When they apologize for short updates. It’s like: look at these new words I gave you! Sorry I didn’t give you even more free words. Bro, that’s at least two words that I did not have yesterday. For free. Dude. Thank you.
And another thing: when people drop out of nowhere with a surprise update and then apologize for it taking a while. Like, dude, I wasn’t expecting anything, and you gave me words. I thought this fic was abandoned, but wait: there’s more. You just popped in and reminded me that this is a Good Fic that I should probably reread. You made my goshdarn day.
Basically fanfic writers are under no obligation to publish anything so when they do update it’s always a net positive because the story is longer now, and I have something to read, so thank you so much to everyone who writes fic at whatever pace or quantity they want.
Explain to me how I can BOTH agree wholeheartedly with this a a reader…
AND
…really really need to hear this as a writer.
The Saturday Morning Hug For All!
This week’s hug is a rare head-grab for Robert Downey Jr!
If you have a hug for the universe, feel free to reblog with your own!
Ew! Please. :)
*adjust marshmallow stick*
Okay, first of all you’re one of my faves because your content is quality. You’re problematic because A: you don’t have a sword (or lightsaber, acceptable substitute) but you also don’t have NEARLY enough sandwiches in your day.
God damn, have a snack.
Like Norcumi, you don’t give yourself nearly as much credit as you should. You’ve got this idea that you need to do ‘as much’ as people, when you’ve consistently done ENOUGH over the last what, year that I’ve been following you? to improve, to live a better life.
Your documenting your days is a comfort honestly. I can look at your twice daily posts of your status, how honest it is, and I can say ‘hey, she’s doing okay’ and also ‘hey, she needs a smile’ and I can rebagel something ridiculous to make you grin. I don’t tag you always but I KNOW.
Also JFC snuggle your cat more. She’s a ball of love and floof and yowling complaints but she loves you and is good for you. Making you do things at LEAST twice a day even! She’s a sweet floof and deserves snuggles and possibly a laser pointer.
Literally the LEAST PROBLEMATIC FAVE EVER JFC.
*passes out s’mores*
*is currently in tears, though happy tears*
TIRED =/= AS LAZY!!!
slightlyaggressiveaffirmations:
IF YOUR ILLNESS MAKES YOU TIRED, THAT’S CALLED A FUCKING SYMPTOM, NOT LAZINESS!!!
YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN!!!
slightlyaggressiveaffirmations:
NO MATTER HOW SICK YOU ARE, YOU ARE A PERSON!!! YOU ARE VALID AND DESERVING!!! EVEN IF YOU NEED HELP WITH DAILY LIFE!!! EVEN IF YOU CAN’T WORK!!! YOU ARE IMPORTANT AND YOU MATTER!!!
I needed this today, thank you!