SHOUT OUT TO EVERYONE WHO STILL TRIES TO GET BACK INTO THE SWING OF THINGS AFTER DEPRESSION HIT THEM HARD. THERE ISN’T ENOUGH RECOGNITION FOR THOSE PEOPLE WHO KNOW THAT THEY’RE GOING TO LOSE INTEREST AND MOTIVATION AGAIN BUT PUSH THEMSELVES TO DO STUFF ANYWAYS. YOU ARE FIGHTING A DAILY BATTLE WITH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND YOU’RE STILL COMING OUT ON TOP, YOU’RE ALL BRAVE AS FUCK
Tag: depression
Reminders for the Anxious/Depressed Creatives
- You’re more than what you make.
- Your productivity does not determine your value.
- It’s okay to do nothing sometimes.
- Not everything you do has to result in a product.
- Not everything you make has to be important, significant, or even good.
- You can make things just for yourself.
- You can keep secrets for yourself, whether it’s not posting some of your projects or not sharing your techniques.
- You’re allowed to say no.
- You’re allowed to rest.
Things I never knew about depression until I finally had a doctor explain the disease to me
helly-watermelonsmellinfellon:
Depression can manifest as irrational anger.
My complete and total inability to keep anything clean or tidy for any amount of time is a symptom of my depression. I may never be able to do this. It’s important that I remember that and forgive myself when I clean something out (like my car) and it ends up trashed within a week.
Depression IS A DISABILITY. Requiring accommodations is okay.
Medications don’t make you better, they don’t cure your depression. They serve as an aid. Their purpose is to help you get to everyone else’s minimal level of functioning.
Depression can cycle through periods of inactivity. This doesn’t mean it’s gone away.
The reason I don’t feel like other people understand me is because … well … other people DON’T understand me. They can’t. They don’t have my disability.
Paranoia is par for the course.
Depression can and will interfere with your physical mobility. Forgive yourself when you can’t physically do something.
It’s entirely possible that I may never be able to live by myself. I can’t take care of myself. I need help to do it. And that’s okay.
As someone who suffers from depression and who experiences all these things as well I think this is important and needs to be reblogged.
Depression is a very difficult thing, not only for people who suffer from it, but for everyone who knows a depressed person. My family doesn’t know how to deal with it, my friends try their very best to support me and I have tried to pretend I was fine until I was in ninth grade.Everything makes so much more sense
Depression is a disease of the brain. The brain is an organ. When organs are not functioning properly, you are advised to see a doctor and get help. So why is it so hard to understand that the brain can suffer as well, and that we need help for it?
The brain controls the body. A sick brain means a sick body.
….
Shit.Don’t disregard it as just sadness. Depression is life threatening.
The day I rebuked someone for saying “depression is in your head” with the comeback “Yes. And there’s an organ in your head called the brain – or at least in MY head, sounds to me like you don’t have one at the present moment – and a brain is a physical component of the body, therefore depression is a Physical ailment”…
that day was the day I took my first step toward accepting it as a disability and forgiving myself for having to live with something so stigmatized
and;
when people attribute depression to being “all in your head,” what they’re really doing is connecting your illness to an expectation of sufferers being virtuous and having enough willpower, almost making it an issue of personal integrity, as if fostering and growing those is the only – or even the most effective – “cure,” and if you’re weak in those areas and not persevering hard enough, then it’s a moral failing
it’s not
I do all this and regularly forget it can be the depression and fall back into berating myself. Its good to remember
Also, you will be exhausted. You cannot work long hours no matter how much you’d like to because it will start pulling on your immune system and physical health a lot sooner than it does for other people. So stop comparing yourself to other people when it comes to how long you can work and start listening to how long it takes before you are exhausted. The added benefit of doing this is, when you find a medication that works, you will suddenly notice yourself getting more energy.
Depression is “all in your head” like hepatitis is “all in your liver.”
Its important to note that most bouts of major depression last no more than two years constant, if you have reoccuring depression it may not be major depression and idk that was a big thing for me to discover. I was always confused because other people I knew had gotten better and I just didnt… I had periods of being ok but at most a few months to a year then I was back to being depressed again.
I’m just starting to come out of another major crash I think… I hope.
If you can and are comfortable, if you have reoccuring depression, or treatment resistant depression it is worth talking to your doctor about any concerns for how long its been lasting.
Note: – Im not saying if you’ve felt depressed for more than two years on the go you arent depressed, Im saying the type of depression it is may not be what you originally thought. Dysthymia is a form of long term low-level depression, that is often treatment resistant though not always.I suffer from Dysthymia with bouts of major depression.
I have beaten myself up over and over again to a very dangerous place because of the fact that I don’t have my own place. I had to move back in with my folks when things got so bad I ended up homeless. I suffer from G.AD. (generalized anxiety disorder), depression, and bipolar and I get scared and still do with the reality that I may never be able to live alone. How do you cope with that, especially if you might possibly be asexual and will may not have a partner or family member to help you out?
@evilkillerpoptarts anyone ever tell you that you are amazing?
@ravynfyre thank you.
Depression is fucking exhausting.
Mmkay. There’s this post floating around about Obi-Wan’s
characterization (link coming up in a minute). I want it on the
record that I am all for people characterizing fictional characters
however they want, on whatever criteria they have including “because
I was in the mood for it,” ‘cause going ‘there’s only one
true interpretation’ is totally a dick move.Nonetheless this post has been slowly driving me bonkers so I’m
trying to do the polite thing and make my own post deconstructing it
rather than adding to theirs.Hell, it starts off with “Please can someone explain to me why
there’s this fandom thing where Obi Wan is nothing but angst and
sads for 20 straight years on Tatooine?”You betcha.
First off, OP is basing character assessment on the Myers–Briggs
Type Indicator. Look. I enjoy personality tests as much as the next
person, but that thing is just as useful to behavior prediction as a
Facebook quiz about which Disney Princess you are. Here’s a nice
convenient article about why which a minimum of digging on Google
netted me. MBTI presents archtypes that are sometimes useful for
casual commentary, but that is not a diagnostic tool.So let’s take a look at Obi-Wan, as we see in the movies (and
Clone Wars), just after Revenge of the Sith. We have a man who is
anywhere from 33 to 38 years old (depending on your version of
canon), who has spent the last three years overworking himself at the
heart of a hideous civil war that he was essentially drafted for, and
oh yes, his side lost. Not only did his side lose, but it got
massacred. Yoda was able to feel the death of the Jedi Order as it
was happening, do not tell me that Obi-Wan had no idea what was going
on too. Meanwhile, Obi-Wan was also dealing with the betrayal of his
closest friend (his brother), who tries to kill him. Meanwhile, said
brother does kill his wife (pregnant
wife) who is a close friend of Obi-Wan’s, right there in
front of him. All this leads to Obi-Wan doing the unthinkable:
mutilating and then killing his brother – or worse, not being able
to kill Anakin, leaving him in torment for another two decades.There is so much PTSD fodder here, and that doesn’t even touch the
betrayals from the clones, nor the question of ‘did he feel the
psychic backlash from the chips kicking in and twisting the clones’
minds?’, nor the mental trauma from The Phantom Menace wherein he
was replaced, failed his teacher who died in his arms but only after
saying ‘that kid what replaced you, you need to train him now,’
and then 10 years of raising a kid when he was literally just
sorta-kinda-not-exactly declared an adult himself. He was not
prepared for that.So once Obi-Wan’s handed over Luke
(the last remaining link to his brother, who he is now not allowed
any contact with since Luke expresses he’s never really met Old
Ben) – that’s the first time he’s had to really stop and
breathe in over 13
years. Ten years to raise a responsibility he never asked for, was
not prepared to handle, and was a reminder of his greatest failure.
Three years of running at least a literal third of a galactic war
that was stacked against him (did he realize that by the end? That
they were being played, and could never have won?).Yeah, he’s got 20 years to work at
recovering from that, but without a skilled therapist that I don’t
think you’re going to find on Tatooine, you’re going to be lucky
to be functional. I know that Star Wars as a whole doesn’t concern
itself with mental health (seriously, mind healers are becoming one
of my most cherished additions that Re-Entry brings to the table).
That doesn’t mean ignoring it will get you a good character assessment.Depression and PTSD isn’t going to
make someone “a sad,
bitter, lonely man” nor
does it mean that one will metaphorically “be playing All By Myself
on repeat for 20 straight years while sobbing into a cup of Bantha
milk.” Depression expresses
itself in any number of ways. It can mute things, so that while you
laugh and even enjoy life, that joy doesn’t linger, or pales
quickly. It can add a haze to everything, so you feel numb and
distant. It can make someone who once expressed themselves
exuberantly seem calm instead of manic. It doesn’t have to affect
one’s wit, or habits of cracking jokes even if those jokes might
feel flat and hollow to the speaker.Sometimes
it just leads to going through the motions of living, how one would
have approached things Before – but it’s just empty motions.PTSD
can express itself as flashbacks. It can look like nothing until it
is
reactions to a different time and trauma instead of what is now and
present. It
can be a person haunted by their past, it can be explosive, it can be
quiet and turned inwards. There are days when it doesn’t hit you,
there are days when it’s so heavy on your shoulders that it feels
like all you can do is sit, stare at a wall, and hope your brain
shuts off. Then there are the days when despite that weight, you
still need to go get groceries, or make dinner, or fix a vaportator,
or fight off wayward Tuskens or something.Nothing
says that depressed and traumatized Obi-Wan wouldn’t sometimes take
delight in lightsaber play, or practical jokes. I just don’t think
that it would overtake the depression and PTSD.On
top of all of that is what
you get when
you take a look at the EU. Obi-Wan’s been traumatized since he was
a kid. He was bullied through his tweens. He was rejected by the ONLY
teacher he could hope to have until the Order booted him to the
AgroCorps, at least a week before the official deadline. Then that
shuttle crashed, and he saw his first major battle which led to
approximately FOUR HUNDRED dead.At
not quite 13. Over the next year (probably less, but let’s be
generous), he had to deal with: kidnapping, enslavement and hard
labor, an attempted mind wipe, an actual war accompanied by
abandonment by his teacher, and
his teacher’s prior student trying to blow up his home. By the time
Phantom Menace rolls around, we can include: several more wars, 6
months to a year on the run across war-torn Mandalore trying to keep
a teenage Satine alive, taking responsibility for the death of
Qui-Gon’s Love Interest – and that’s just what’s off the top
of my head.Y’know
what’s interesting? During Attack of the Clones, what I see is a
man just barely holding his shit together. That scene in Dex’s
Diner breaks me, because all I can think of is my time doing food
service while going through my own PTSD and depression – and I
recognize that empty smile he has for Dex. I know it’s all
interpretation, but I can’t help but think he’s faking that
smile. That sure, he means it: he’s happy to see a friend, he wants
to reassure him, but that doesn’t change the hollow inside that he
knows if he lets go and falls into it, he will never climb out.The
war provided an alternative focus. It gave him clear, concrete goals:
beat back enemies here and here, keep as many of these people alive
as possible, here are resources and here are the end goals. He could
legitimately bond with brothers in arms who could grok black humor,
who wouldn’t look askance at someone covering long-standing grief
and discomfort with banter and flirting, “who
winked and witticized his way out of death and imprisonment a million
times, who always found something to laugh about or make fun of even
in the most difficult situations” – regardless of how inappropriate or relevant that might be to the circumstances.Sometimes,
that laughter is all that keeps you from breaking from all the pain.Yes,
people heal. Yes, he had 20 years to
work through
that trauma and injury. He’d
also be doing it alone, with a legacy of stoicism and philosophies
about releasing his emotions into the Force. The last major
friendships he had ended in betrayal in death, and people he depended on tended to either die or betray him.That’s
not something you blithely overcome to play pranks on the locals
while watching over the kid of your best friend what you almost
killed as he was trying to kill you, like he killed most everyone
else you knew and loved. There is so much trauma and pain he’s had to see over the last 20 plus years, and Tatooine is the first time he ever gets to breathe and react.If you want to write trickster archtype Obi-Wan, I applaud you. Without any sarcasm or mockery: you do you.
Meanwhile, I’ll be writing traumatized Old Ben.
(Many thanks to @morgynleri and @elegantmess-southernbelle who provided brilliant points and conversation, though I suspect I
phrased it with much less grace and coherency than they did)
the line between not going out as an act of self-care and not going out as a symptom of depression is but a gossamer thread
elphabaforpresidentofgallifrey:
does anyone else have those moments where they just fall in love with being alive? like, maybe you’re in art class with soft music and you realize that this peaceful feeling is a part of life that you love and you want to just keep forever, and there are so many other parts of life too that are so wonderful and maybe existing isnt so bad after all
is this what being not depressed is like
no, this is what recovery is like. this is what being depressed is like, and it’s why we stay. because even when we’re sure this is it, this is the last day we can put up with it, this is the last hour, the last second – some part of us remembers these moments, and thinks – what if tomorrow has one of them.
i used to joke i have bad days and worse days. i almost never do well. i feel like i keep barely a nose above the water.
but in those rare, rare, rare seconds where the waves stop for one second and i catch sight of something other than dark, i see it. the way a rose looks after a rain. how my mother smiles when she knows it’s my favorite meal that’s cooking. my best friend looking over his shoulder to flip me off again. the bike i rode at 7 and crashed at 17. a little bug struggling with five little legs – but walking, walking.
recovery isn’t smashing into these moments and realizing it’s finally happened, what those people said is true and it “all gets better”. recovery is remembering those moments and deciding – i want them back. it’s looking for them. sometimes it takes hours. sometimes days. sometimes months without any sight of them. but you look, you search even when you’re too tired to keep your eyes open, because you promised yourself … tomorrow. tomorrow will be the day we find one. a four leaf clover we know is our sign, the rainbow, the wishing well – the way out.
and when you find one, they get easier. four leaf clovers always grow in the same patch, after all. and your eyes get sharper. you figure out what makes any small part of you happy. you figure out that you might not be happy, but it’s good enough to stick around to watch the way oil looks in puddles and how she always cries at new year’s. and it might not be blisteringly, soul-crushingly happy in the way other people seem to feel things – in that mind-numbing wordless joy that shines in them, that glow i’m so envious of, that effortlessness – but it will be like this, just quiet, a moment of rest, of the shouts dimming for a minute, a peace.
it’s easy to say “i’m depressed, i’ll never be happy.” maybe. i hope not, because i’m still looking. and in these moments i’ve rediscovered that i am funny, that i like the color pink, that kittens and puppies never fail me. in these moments i’m still depressed, still me, still fighting an illness that wants to end me. but i’m fighting. i seek these moments in every second i get because i’m here and breathing and after all this i’m going to be pissed if this gets the better of me.
maybe i’ll never figure out how to feel effortless and free. but i know that i feel love when the music is blaring and my hands are out the window and i feel love somewhere on the beach and i feel love watching salamanders wake up in the mornings. it’s not other people’s love, it’s far-off and it’s distant and it might not be “normal”, but it’s goddamn important to me.
i didn’t wake up better. i forced better to come fight me. i’ve been walking towards recovery since i was 19. five years later and no, i’m not cured, but i see a lot more of these moments. or maybe they were always there, and only now am i realizing what i got in front of me.
and when it’s been bad again? when i’m not even breathing? when it’s been months since i felt anything, when the stress is too much and the sky is dark and the moon in me has fallen silent? i say: hang on. tomorrow might be the day we find it. tomorrow might be worth the fight.
the best part about this? eventually, i’m right.
look: if you have treatment-resistant depression (you’ve tried more than two antidepressants, from two different classes, without success[1]), please consider the following:
- you actually have bipolar II, not major depressive disorder
- you have ADHD instead of or in addition to major depressive disorder
get evaluated for both. both are easy to miss, because ADHD doesn’t manifest very obviously even in severe cases and because bipolar II is not as dramatic as bipolar I and gets overlooked.
[1] SSRIs and SNRIs count as two different classes. if you tried, say, prozac and effexor and neither worked, you qualify.
also, it may be that some of the symptoms you have that have been labeled depression are the result of posttraumatic stress, which often (though not necessarily) responds better to therapy and other treatments than to antidepressants alone.
v. important addition my ADHD-ass brain forgot about. PTSD hides in plain site and can majorly complicate other mental illnesses.
Listen up! I landed in the hospital for nine days with suicidal, treatment-resistant depression, only to find out that I have bipolar II and PTSD. I didn’t know that a bipolar II hypomania can manifest as incredible insomnia, irritability, distractibility, etc while still maintaining an elevated level of depression, so I didn’t recognize the mood swings for what they were. I just felt depressed all the time, but sometimes I slept all the time, and sometimes I didn’t sleep at all.
Once I was switched from an antidepressant to a mood stabilizer, I saw immediate and dramatic improvement, and began to recognize the signs of falling into a depression or hypomania. If you can’t seem to get your depression under control, ask your doctor about bipolar II!
Hypomania can also be having a lot of energy, not needing a lot of sleep and being creative and productive. It’s like mania, but toned down a whole lot. If you’re used to depression, hypomania just feels like what you think normal should be. It feels good. Except it ends and crashes back into depression, leaving you depressed and guilty about fucking up whatever it was that hypomania was letting you do.
I found this book to be really helpful. I wanted to leave my old doctor for multiple reasons, so I hunted down a doctor familiar with bipolar II and he confirmed my suspicions and got me into treatment.
Bipolar meds are not only DIFFERENT than standard depression meds, but bipolar patients can also react badly to them – they can trigger manic episodes (and usually not the fun kind).
If you have ADHD and depression and PTSD, that can also mimic Bipolar disorder. I’m not bipolar, but I was misdiagnosed for a long time because nobody really listened to me talking about abuse for a long time, and my ADHD is more of the inattentive type.
sorry
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You know what?
We need a more inclusive awareness about depression.
When depression is described, it usually (but not always) amounts to variations of ‘feeling sad’. But I don’t ‘feel sad’, so I spent ten years thinking that I was just super lazy and undisciplined.
Then, someone made an effort to point out that I might have depression. Had I never been introduced to the more ‘obscure’ symptoms, I never would have realized that I was worrying about the wrong things.
For some people, depression amounts to;
- A bleak outlook on your life – feelings of hopelessness and disinterest in your future.
- Persistent and chronic feelings of ‘sadness’ and ‘helplessness’
- Thoughts of suicide and/or self harm.
But for me, depression is NOT any of those. I have;
- Daily physical and mental exhaustion, but also severe insomnia. I am yawning by mid afternoon, but I can only scrape an average of five hours of sleep.
- Lacking the ability to consciously construct a train of thought (without great effort). This prevents me from doing schoolwork, household chores, or socializing.
- Chronic restlessness and physical discomfort, which accumulates to general grumpiness and frustration 24/7.
- Persistent body pains and aches, especially in my neck and arms.
- An altered perception of time. I forget sentences as I’m speaking them. It’s difficult to tell if something happened two hours ago, or two days ago. Every waking moment just blurs into one big boring stretch of unsatisfactory.
You can’t muscle through depression. Things will not get easier the more you try to tackle them. You know a great treatment for depression? Accommodating to it. Making your life easier. Recognizing the things you can and can’t do.
We need more people to recognize their depression. Otherwise, they’ll keep struggling and struggling and they’ll wonder why everyone is having such a good time while they’re using up all their spoons simply by driving to work.
THIS. THIS THIS THIS.
When I do get down and suffer from the typical “sad” symptoms of my depression, it gets really, really bad, and I have the hardest time digging myself back out of it – there are some people who have seen me at my worst and can attest to just how “classically depressed” I can become – but on a day to day basis, everything the OP describes is absolutely on point. That’s what it’s like, every day, and it’s garbage.
People don’t understand that there’s more to it than the catastrophic pit of miserable despair that they usually think of when they imagine “depression”, and they think that if you’re not sobbing on the floor all day that there’s nothing wrong. This is obviously patently untrue, and I’m so glad the OP made this post.
There’s also dysthemia . It’s like a “Im a little sad, but its not extreme” over a long period of time. Like this neutral “meh” over everything
Apathy is an important part of it too. Just a complete lack of emotions or interest in anything – even things you would normally love to do or people that you love. This actually becomes quite dangerous because without even realizing it you’re cutting off your support and removing things from your life that could help you get some control and focus back into it. If you feel apathetic about something you would normally be extremely happy doing then my advice is to do it anyway. All it can do is help and in my own personal experience it gives something to grab onto to pull yourself out of the cycle.
FINALLY SOMEONE SAYS IT! Such an accurate post!