vaspider:

spyderqueen:

jessicameats:

thehumorousace:

apocellipsis:

FUN FACT: it seems like more and more people are coming out as asexual because we finally feel safe enough to do so, it is not a fad, it is not a trend, and if you think it is one of those things please hop on the shut-the-fuck-up train to don’t-fucking-speak-to-me-ville.

Holy shit, it’s been put into words.

💜🌈💜

Also, people are coming out as asexual because we finally know that this is a thing that exists. We are reading things on the internet and thinking, “Oh, this sounds like me,” and, “There are other people who feel like this?” and, “Maybe I’m not broken after all.”

I wasn’t aware asexuality even existed until a couple of years ago. I mentioned asexuality to a coworker maybe a month ago and her reaction was astonished joy and, “That sounds like me!” I spoke to a woman in her fifties who said, “I always just assumed I was broken.”

People are coming out as asexual because they’ve learned that asexuality exists.

We’re also finding out more information about asexuality so even if we already knew it was a thing but thought “But I can’t be because X” can now go “Oh, the X thing doesn’t actually change that!”

This shouldn’t be surprising in a general sense – this is exactly, exactly, EXACTLY what happened with bisexual folks and trans folks, especially nonbinary and genderqueer folks.

Fun fact: when I first knew I was some variety of queer, I would sit in my bed at night and whisper ‘I’m a lesbian’ to myself bc I didn’t know there were other options. And then I snuck out books by fucking Kinsey in the library when my mother wasn’t looking, because this was 25+ years ago, and looked up sexual orientations… and found out bisexuality existed.

And then a few years later, after saying ‘oh gosh you know if I could just have a dimmer switch for gender I’d love that, or if I could swap my body and my gender around or if I could just present this way one day and this way another’ for a long time, I found the words ‘genderqueer’ and ‘genderfluid’ as those became more part of the queer vernacular… and it was like a light went on.

This is part of why bi and trans and genderqueer/genderqueer and trans ppl keep saying ‘look, it’s like what happened with us.’ It’s not ONLY because of the way that people are treating aces, telling them AMG YOU ARE NOT ONE OF US U FAKER, it’s because THE WHOLE THING is so much like what happened with us. Including the lightbulb moments and the realization that we’d always been this way, we just needed the words.

So yeah.