anghraine:

incognitajones
replied to your post “I obviously have my bias in the unending discourse over genderbending,…”

…an OC? [head tilt] does not compute

The logic, as far as I can tell, is that gender is not only essential to some people’s identities but everyone’s, while things like culture and time period are nonessential and therefore mutable. So an AU character who’s been socialized in a different culture = a version of the character (maybe an OOC version in execution, but a version), while an AU character who’s been socialized as a different gender = fundamentally a different person = OC.

The end result is a ton of “you should just write them as an OC because they are” that flies around in the general discourse, with apparently zero comprehension that people don’t want to write about any character, they want that character.

Hugs for EVERYONE*

morgynleri:

*hugs you all* Because today is a day for hugs, and I’m going to run out of spoons if I go putting hugs in everyone’s ask box.

Feel free to reblog this to give a hug to every one of your followers.

*who is comfortable with being hugged. If you do not like hugs or are uncomfortable with physical contact, or even just prefer not a hug from someone not a mutual friend, cookies or other snacks suitable for your dietary needs and restrictions.

Sleepover Saturday – what originally drew you to Loki?

iamanartichoke:

His black suit, haha. 

In seriousness, I think it was just … his utter complexity as a character? There are so many layers to Loki, you can keep peeling them back and peeling them back and still never quite reach the core of what makes him tick. He is mercurial and callous, he is insecure and damaged, he is jaded and cynical, he is intelligent and witty, he is mischievous and sly. He feels things so deeply, though it is often to his own detriment, and he has an enormous capacity to love, but sabotages it by his equally enormous capacity for self-loathing. He wears so many masks – villain, anti-hero, savior, trickster – but for all of his layers and identities, there isn’t a bit of true, unrepentant evil in him. Not at all. His villainy lacks conviction, as Coulson pointed out, and comes from a place of deep pain, not true cruelty. He is not irredeemable. He’s like a puzzle piece that never quite fits anywhere, but has not yet discovered that this is what makes him so preciously rare. He has yet to find value in himself, but there’s the sense that he could, eventually. He’s made strides in that direction. And I think all of these factors just culminate in a character whose complexity makes him achingly relatable, because in a world full of superheroes, some of us are just the insecure, strange puzzle pieces still trying to figure out where we fit. 

Thank you for the ask! 

Sleepover Saturday.

calime33:

pennie-dreadful:

iamanartichoke:

lucianalight:

“I love you, my sons”

My real issue with this(apart from the fact that it’s not a fix for all the pain that Odin caused) is that it’s too damn late. Yes, Loki needed to hear it and it’s good that he finally did. But he needed it much sooner.

He needed to hear “I love you too, brother” from Thor before the coronation instead of “Thank you”.

He needed to hear “I love you” from Odin instead of “You are my son”. Because they aren’t the same thing. He needed to be sure of his place and his father’s love for him instead of feeling like a useless relic: “Bring about permanent peace through you. But those plans no longer matter”.

I was waiting the whole time that somebody tells Loki that he is loved but it didn’t happen.

Next time he sees Odin, he is told that “Your birthright was to die!” and he is sentenced to solitary confinement for life. Thor doesn’t visit. He only sees his mother by illusions. None of his family sees it fit to tell him that his mother died. He isn’t even given a chance to say goodbye.

This “I love you” is too late. These words don’t match the actions. They are too little, too late.

Odin, you used that word, but I don’t think it means what you think it means. 

I can’t help but think that must have felt like the worst gaslighting to Loki.

Also, it truly is interesting to note that until that moment, the only person in that entire fucked up family to verbally express love…was Loki.

That read to me as the worst kind of gaslighting too, and my reactions were mostly on the line of poor Loki that gets those words when they not only mean nothing, but actually are a hurt and an insult. Though I can very well see Odin meaning them. I understand that some fans are upset that there was not satisfactory resolution (and some are upset, and IMO kinda rightly-ish about that others have decided that this throwaway bone of gaslighting from an old dad not very clear in their mind WAS enough and should feel enough to Loki, to us), but it actually fits extremely well with the history and MO of that fucked up family, and quite realistically parallels a lot of RL shit. Odin in all likelihood thinks/thought he loved his sons (nobody is a villain in their own mind), and he was still a shit dad. And he died a shit dad, to all his MCU-acknowledged kids. Not that he’s much better dad in comics – and honestly, anyone at least partly familiar with northern mythos would not think Odin would be a ‘good dad’ the way we nowadays think one should be. Odin just… isn’t. Odin is a mean clever tricksy darkish vengeful smart fickle fascinating fear-inducing petty god of the battlefield, wisdom and death. None of those things, except maybe death, are really ever kind to children.

Radio Free Monday

copperbadge:

Good morning everyone, and welcome to Radio Free Monday!

Ways To Give:

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jabberwockypie linked to a fundraiser for her housemates deadcatwithaflamethrower and drougnor, who are moving from Maine to Florida due to allergies that are having a heavy impact on Flamethrower and are now starting to impact their children as well. You can read more and reblog here (now with an update!) and give to the paypal here (the paypal address to give to if you don’t use paypal.me is deadcatwithaflamethrower at gmail.com).

Help For Free:

Anon wanted to let people know about a petition to raise income tax in the UK a small amount in order to better fund social care and the NHS; you can read more here and if you are a UK citizen, sign the petition here.

Anon linked to saianshewolf, who is searching for “Fandom Grandmas” for a project for a women in history class: women in fandom who are old enough to remember mailing lists, geocities pages, yahoo groups, the period just before LiveJournal, and the earliest days of LiveJournal. You can read more, reblog, and get in touch here.

Buy Stuff, Help Out:

And finally a link I messed up last week! magpiemiscellaney has a number of wirework pendants available on Etsy right now with proceeds going to activist organizations such as RAICES, the ACLU, Lambda Legal, Earthjustice, and Planned Parenthood. You can check them out and make a purchase here!

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lynati:

theotherguysride:

nyxserpent:

aniseandspearmint:

education:

Take The Quiz Now!

HA!

THEY GOT IT SOOOO WRONG

It says I grew up in the midwest. I’ve never even BEEN to the midwest on more than a drive through.

I grew up in N. Cali, Washington State, Oregon, and Georgia.

Pacific Northwest? *falls over laughing* Noooope, New England girl here

And it said New England for me, but *I grew up in the southwest*.

Mine said California…I’m from the Mid-Atlantic.

South. Which, ok, if you’re talking summers, but Mid-Atlantic was the majority of my time.

star-anise:

1dietcokeinacan:

1dietcokeinacan:

One last hot take and then I’ll shut up: the reason adhd is framed first and foremost as a learning disability when it is in fact more apt to call it an emotional processing disorder is bc our society is only concerned w the ways neurological disorders impede a person’s ability to “function” aka get a job and contribute positively to capitalist society. How adhd affects interpersonal behaviors and emotional health is only relevant insofar as it relates to a person’s level of societal functioning PERIOD. There is no interest in improving our actual livelihoods

This is why girls are often not diagnosed w adhd until they are much older, bc they are forced to develop certain social awareness and self-surveillance capacities at an extremely young age and thus don’t perform “poorly” in the areas usually looked at to signify the disorder. But that doesn’t mean girls don’t take that distress out thru other avenues, just that the many alternative iterations of the disorder are ignored by professionals bc they don’t matter as far as society is concerned, as long as a girl is performing “well enough”

I am like 75% YES THIS about this post. 

The last 25% is like, it’s not NO interest. People who study and treat ADHD do care about emotional suffering. On the other hand–the money, the research dollars, the operating budgets, the reports, the ways we talk to parents, the way we make people care, all have to speak the language of intellectual capacity and capitalist productivity. 

Even now, if we say, “This disorder means the child will have no or few friends during elementary school,” the people responsible for funding assessment and therapy are like, yawn, make an eight-week after-school social skills group if it really matters. But if we say “this child might not get into college because of this” then HOT DAMN, suddenly people give a shit and will shell out money about it.