Public Shame

jackcrumsontheinternet:

the-real-seebs:

curlicuecal:

As I mentioned, I recently read Jon Ronson’s book “So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed” and thought it made some very compelling points on the renaissance of public shaming in the age of social media.  I was going to post my highlights, but then I realized I’d highlighted about 30% of the book, so instead:

I wrote down what I thought were some of the key, take-home points the book made, and pulled quotes from the book in no particular order for each of them.  It’s  still a wall of text, but feel free to wade in if you’re interested.

Again, I strongly recommend giving this book a read.

  • Public shaming is often motivated by a belief that one is Doing Good

  • Public shaming is about social conformity

  • Public shaming can make us LESS aware of viewpoints different that our own 
  • Shame works because we are all afraid

  • Shaming others can bring out our own brutality

  • Shame leads to dehumanization and “death of the soul”

  • Shame leads to violence

  • Technology has strange warping effects on how public shaming
    affects us (and social media shaming can have longer impacts than we
    expect)

  • There is evidence that “De-shaming” may have more positive outcomes than shaming

quotes from the book supporting each point under the cut. (bolding mine, quotes by paragraph and in no particular order)

Keep reading

This is some incredible stuff. Worth reading all the comments.

And
 yeah, actually, I have absolutely defaulted to shaming responses to shaming behavior, and been confused that it wasn’t working, so that seems to be an actual bug in how brains work.

Loved this book. Looking at shame as a sort of an emotional violence completely recontextualizes the Internet.

DONE, and also Mini Nano Day 9

The buttons are all stitched on, even if four of them will have to be redone later (they have stitches through the loop, so they won’t fall off, but they’re not done properly, like the rest of them. I have no more spoons to finish them properly before Philcon).

And I located where I put the headscarf that nominally goes with it. And removed a couple buttons from it, because just. No. Everyone else left on there is both an character I like and played by someone I’m not… well, let’s say severely disappointed with, and leave it at that because it’s politic.


Mini Nano was scribbling notes for the exchange fic, so I have something to poke at over the weekend. Word count has been achieved, but no snippet.

*thump thump thump scrabble thump mrow scrabble thump thump bed-wobble thump thump thump rustle*

Wait.

“CAT! What the fuck did you do, parkour off the underside of my bed?!”

*rustle rustle thump*

Sigh.

“Damnit, cat. You weigh 11 fucking pounds, how the hell do you rattle the bed like I’d just tried to scramble out from under the bed?”

*silence*

Fucking cat.

karadin:

cas-is-deaf:

thisentertaining:

I want a Hawkeyes movie where Hawkeyes is deaf like in the comics, and in the first five minutes he loses his hearing aids, and the rest of the movie is silent except for a constant running commentary of what Hawkeyes is thinking until the very end when he gets his hearing aids back.

And there would be closed captions or something for when people use sign language.

And when people don’t sign and he has to read lips, they should get genuinely hard of hearing people to translate so that they know what words or phrases are hard to catch by lip reading.

Also, lots of explosions with no sound. I feel like that would just be cool.

Tbh would watch this 10/10

And then a movie entirely from Lucky the Pizza dog’s perspective.

prokopetz:

Fantasy RPG worldbuilding tip #137: mess with what counts as magic.

I don’t mean replicating modern technology with magical analogues – that stuff’s common as dirt. What I mean is taking a step back from the conventional paradigm of starting with a world that fundamentally resembles our own and layering magic on top of it, and asking yourself: what if this obviously non-magical thing is a form of magic in this world?

History furnishes numerous examples. It’s well-known, for example, that the Ancient Greeks didn’t distinguish between pharmacology and sorcery – but did you know that the Vikings considered picking locks to be a form of magic? That it’s demonstrably a mechanical skill that can be learned by anyone is beside the point; that a person was able to learn that skill in the first place was, itself, seen as evidence of consorting with evil spirits!

So run with that: pick a perfectly ordinary skill or pursuit, one that’s integral to our everyday life, and suppose that in your world, it’s a mystical practice that transgresses against the natural order. What does your world look like then?

To pose a common example: literacy. Treating literacy as a form of magic isn’t historically uncommon; the modern word “grimoire” – a book of spells – ultimately derives from the same root as “grammar”. So let’s run with that. The process and mechanics of learning to read are the same as they are in our world, but the implications may be very different. Perhaps knowing how to read books automatically confers the ability to read minds. Perhaps literacy grants the ability to understand the speech of beasts. There’s all sorts of directions you could go with it.

It’s critical to resist the urge to fall back on describing our world with magic laid on top. If you’re doing the literacy-as-magic thing, then you are not describing a world in which a reading-based school of magic exists; you are describing a world in which the acts of reading and writing are and always have been mystical practices, with all the societal weirdness that implies – and further, the mechanics of reading and writing do not materially differ from those of their real-world counterparts, though the outcomes may vary wildly.

The other major trap to watch out for is picking something too esoteric to really dig into. You’ll find plenty of fantasy settings where, say, clockworking or steam engineering is a form of magic – but clockworking isn’t something that ordinary people do in their daily lives. This sort of worldbuilding is much more effective when the practice in question is ubiquitous.

Other everyday activities that might make good candidates for converting into mystical practices:

  • Cooking or baking
  • Dressing (i.e., the act of putting on clothing)
  • Farming or gardening
  • Keeping pets
  • Lighting fires
  • Makeup (i.e., facial cosmetics)
  • Personal hygiene (bathing, grooming, etc.)
  • Representational art (that is, drawing pictures of things)
  • Rhyming (even unintentionally!)

Again, no wimping out; to pick a faintly ridiculous example from the preceding list, if you’ve decided that bathing is magic in your setting, that doesn’t mean that there’s a magical way to take a bath – it means that taking a bath is an inherently mystical process, and there’s no non-magical way to go about it. Similarly, if you went with cooking, what you’ve got is a world in which all prepared food is, in some sense, also a magic potion.

Give it a shot!

a–case–of–you:

“He was my friend. But his Cardassia is dead and it won’t be coming back.

One of the reasons I love Damar so much, and Casey’s acting, is because Casey has this beautiful, subtle way of getting emotions across. He is so good at it and I’m honestly irritated that Damar is a character who seems to be overlooked often. He is a powerful, beautifully crafted, and beautifully preformed, character. 

In this scene, Damar has just killed his best friend because he was threatening to kill Garak and Kira. This was a very symbolic scene and another chance to showcase Damar’s change of attitude and the kinds of realizations he has come to. His character has made huge leaps in growth by now, but he is continuing to surprise us as he comes to terms with so many things–Cardassia’s past, and what he needs to do now, and how his very actions will greatly impact the future of his entire people. 

Rusot represented the old Cardassia and Rusot had shown time and time again during the Rebellion that he was truly not on board with doing what was best for Cardassia. So despite his friendship and loyalty, when it came down to choosing between his friend or doing the right thing for Cardassia’s future, Damar chose Cardassia. He chose Elim Garak a traitor and exile, and he chose Kira Nerys, a Bajoran resistance fighter, over a traditional Cardassian soldier who had been his long time friend
 in just the same manner that the kind of prejudices and attitudes that Cardassian culture tend to perpetuate had been Damar’s long time-friend. 

Not only is the scene so powerful and important for these metaphors and Damar’s growth, but just the way in which Casey shows Damar’s emotions and delivers his lines are beautiful.

This photo is a look he trades with Kira after he has killed Rusot. They make eye contact and hold it for several moments. You can feel the strength of it. Damar has sighed, his eyes are wet, but he holds her gaze to convey a message to her and then he nods very subtly as though saying “Yes, I understand now” and she returns a similar gesture. These two people who could not have been more at odds with each other in the past, and from cultural perspectives, have come to a mutual understanding
 and maybe even respect. I think Damar has discovered a respect for her in finding out how it is to fight for your people out from under the bootheel of oppression, and I think that Kira has learned to respect him too–yes, he is a Cardassian, but at this point Kira is a bigger person than that, and she seems to respect Damar’s growth and his dedication to fighting for freedom. 

Anyway, I wrote a novel. Thank you, blogger, for having this blog where we can appreciate a man who has given us such wonderful things. I hope the blog grows and more people can come to appreciate a talent that is truly special.”

Thank you for the submission, @guljerry.  This is an incredibly poignant moment for this character, and for the series as a whole.  I would say that the only moment that possibly eclipses it is when Damar learns of the death of his family.  The “casual brutality of it.”  The acting is so understated, but it’s not numb.  His eyes are absolutely alive with emotion.  It’s a very, very powerful performance.

“Who gives those kinds of orders?”

“Yeah, Damar.  Who gives those kinds of orders?”

I think that was not only one of the best acted scenes in Star Trek history, and a real turning point for the character, but also one of the most important.

Lest we forget.

Millennials are not children

queerly-tony:

lanceprestonsmoak:

queerly-tony:

So


The oldest millennials right now are 35. They were born in 1982 and turned 18 in the year 2000.

Gen Z started in the late 90â€Čs or 2000, depending on your opinion.

But for certain, if you were born after 2000, YOU ARE NOT A MILLENNIAL.

The youngest millennials are just about 18 years old right now if you end the Millennial Generation in 2000.

18-35. We are your millennials.

“Younger millennials” are actually Gen Z.

THIS ALL STEMS FROM OUR PARENTS CONTINUING TO INFANTILIZE US.

Millennials are full-grown fucking adults in their twenties and thirties!!!

MILLENNIALS ARE NOT TEENAGERS, MILLENNIALS ARE NOT CHILDREN.

(there is nothing wrong with being a teenager. you’re awesome and great, welcome to Gen Z by the way, also called the iGeneration)

Thissss. No one can really agree when the millennials “end”, but most say between 95-97. Which means that millennials are all over 20, and as a group we’re in the work force now.

Yep, exactly. Millennials aren’t little kids, but the media still treats us that way.Â